Came upon this question a few days ago.
If we take away lust\ sex from a relationship, will it last long?
Difficult question, isn't it.
When young we have an answer, as we grow old we have a different one.
I remember, while we were staying in the university hostel, often our topic of discussion would be marriage. Arranged or love,there was no concept of having sex before marriage then. So how do we know,the person we are marrying is impotent or not? We questioned, but we feared to imagine the situation. Marriage meant sex,child bearing,what else? What would have happened if life went differently.
A friend once said a story. The husband was unable. Treated, tried, but failed. The wife with all her care stayed by his side. Why? Because of love? Pity? The wife had no support system! Or divorce was not a norm! Difficult, isn't it. So many times the girl is unable to speak her plight.
After marriage, we all enjoy initially, unless it turns into a painful experience. For women it may ebb after child birth or its responsibility, but what with men? Once a friend said,I remember, just shut your eyes and bear.or else husband may be in the search of an alternative. But that is rape, isn't it?
With an history of breast cancer in the family ,often thought,what would happen, if I have one,if I lose one or both breasts? Will husband sympathize or expect me to be dead or silently search an alternative!
With age its different. Sex decreases, responsibility takes the place. Don't remember, read a quote of a famous writer,true love occurs when sex ends. May be. A young boy answered brilliantly. Doubt how many marriages would have existed if there were no children involved! How true. So we see so many elderly people searching for a love life outside the marriage.
Love is something. Of course it brings sex with it. Platonic love may exist but rarely. And then there is family, responsibility, all different from each other.
If we take away lust\ sex from a relationship, will it last long?
Difficult question, isn't it.
When young we have an answer, as we grow old we have a different one.
I remember, while we were staying in the university hostel, often our topic of discussion would be marriage. Arranged or love,there was no concept of having sex before marriage then. So how do we know,the person we are marrying is impotent or not? We questioned, but we feared to imagine the situation. Marriage meant sex,child bearing,what else? What would have happened if life went differently.
A friend once said a story. The husband was unable. Treated, tried, but failed. The wife with all her care stayed by his side. Why? Because of love? Pity? The wife had no support system! Or divorce was not a norm! Difficult, isn't it. So many times the girl is unable to speak her plight.
After marriage, we all enjoy initially, unless it turns into a painful experience. For women it may ebb after child birth or its responsibility, but what with men? Once a friend said,I remember, just shut your eyes and bear.or else husband may be in the search of an alternative. But that is rape, isn't it?
With an history of breast cancer in the family ,often thought,what would happen, if I have one,if I lose one or both breasts? Will husband sympathize or expect me to be dead or silently search an alternative!
With age its different. Sex decreases, responsibility takes the place. Don't remember, read a quote of a famous writer,true love occurs when sex ends. May be. A young boy answered brilliantly. Doubt how many marriages would have existed if there were no children involved! How true. So we see so many elderly people searching for a love life outside the marriage.
Love is something. Of course it brings sex with it. Platonic love may exist but rarely. And then there is family, responsibility, all different from each other.
